Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Are You Afraid?

Let's face it. It is human nature to be competitive. Ever since those diaper-clad days, we wanted everything for ourselves and refused to share. It is natural. It is a learned behavior to be selfless.



As a writer, I've come across many writerly people. As a whole, writers love to share because it's a mutualistic relationship. We learn from what we give and we learn from what we take. Where does our competitiveness come to play?

To some extent,  we want to keep all the glory to ourselves. Why should we mention our marketing strategies that worked fabulously for us? Why should we endorse another author's work if it might be the next bestseller and leave ours behind? Why should we share our little cool gadget thingies that work great for us?

Writers are of a different breed. Being a writer is a lonely kind of thing. We don't meet at a huge building, plugging our laptops in and taking a lunch break at noon in the lunch room. We don't have life insurance we can apply for at HR. We don't carpool together to work so that we can spend 8 hours of nonstop pure blissful writing... (Imagine such a place????) No, we work when we can--between the cracks of life.



I know that I've come SO far because I gave so much of myself and made so many writerly friends. I have not lost one thing by sharing my writerly secrets. There are people out there that refuse to share because it is their hard earned sweat and blood, or maybe because they are narcissistic. 

Writers are human despite of the many faces we wear as we become every MC we write about. 


So, the question is, are you afraid to share your writerly secrets? If you are, why? If not, share away! ;)


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21 comments:

  1. I don't really have anything to share. As a new writer, I'm still picking things up as I go along and also greedily taking any tidbits other writers want to share. The one thing I've learned is that I need to sit down and do some writing every day or only be allowed to take one day off, or I lose track of what I'm doing. At first I thought I could write this novel a bit at a time, as and when I could, but the further along I got and the more serious I got about it, I realised that it does take some dedication. So if you can spare at least half an hour a day, try to write daily. You will be amazed at how much it grows from there.

    Great post!

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  2. I don't have much to share, but when I do find little pearls of wisdom, I always give them away to my writerly friends.
    I have been all about helping and supporting my fellow authors.
    Great post!

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  3. I have absolutely no writerly secrets to share!

    I think success is truly down to hard work, peristence, patience and more hard work!! And those should not be secrets anyway! Take care
    x

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  4. I only know one secret: Keep writing. :-)

    But seriously, I share whatever I can with whoever is willing to listen. I do think it's important to wait until someone is open to hearing what you have to say, and listening, before offering something of yourself. Advice might not be wanted, or they might not be in a mental place where they're ready to hear it.

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  5. Well, me too...I don' have any secrets other than, yes...I have fears.

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  6. I'm not afraid to share at all. The writing community is so supportive. Yes, there are the few jerks that attempt to make themselves feel better by not sharing or by bringing you down, but the majority of writers I've met have been wonderful.

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  7. Well,i guess i'd leave the questions to writers.I love writing though,but i'm obviously not a writer.

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  8. If you're writing, you're a writer. :-)

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  9. I'm not afraid to share! Might not be good advice, but I'll share.

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  10. Rebecca--that's is wonderful! I know what you mean about keeping up or losing out. It is important to keep the idea fresh. Thank you for sharing! <3

    Mel, yay! I'm glad that you love to help. I'll keep you in mind next time I need the help. :)

    Jennifer, so true! Don't forget believing, too! ;)

    Paul, you are SO right. A full honest critique can not be taken by a person who's barely testing the waters. I know what you mean. :)

    Em, I believe that having fears is a perpetual part of being a writer. *sigh*

    Christine, I agree with you! They are doing themselves a disservice, too!

    Great, lol. Thank you for visiting!

    Paul--rofl! True. :)

    Alex, there's no such thing as bad advice if it's a growing experience for you--whether it was a stumble or an up. ;)

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  11. I'm not afraid to share what I know. I believe in the what goes around theory; or, treat others the way you would like to be treated.

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  12. Anthony--I do too! Thank you for sharing your heart. :)


    ♥.•*¨Elizabeth¨*•.♥
    Can Alex save Winter from the darkness that hunts her?
    YA Paranormal Romance, Darkspell coming fall of 2011!

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  13. You are awesome! I'm always learning from you. Thanks for sharing. I wish you every success with your new book.

    Kathi

    See, I took your advice about a signature. ;)

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  14. Kathi, thank you! Ooh, I <3 <3 <3 your signature, so classy, too. *hugs*

    ♥.•*¨Elizabeth¨*•.♥
    Can Alex save Winter from the darkness that hunts her?
    YA Paranormal Romance, Darkspell coming fall of 2011!

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  15. I agree with you completely. Sharing is one of the best ways to grow and learn. I am an open book. I keep very little to myself. I have no secrets. It's nice to see I'm not alone in that. :)

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  16. Writing is a solitary endeavor. However, I think the writing community is a FANTASTIC resource to banish those lonely states, provide support, and share information. Without the sharing and caring part, how would anyone find any success in this biz? It's just too hard otherwise, IMHO.

    Nice post!

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  17. Crystal, I think you totally rock. I love your personality. If only we lived closer, I'd love a girls night out with you! <3

    Laura, so true! I feel as if I've discovered a gold mine with all the writerly friends that are out there. :)

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  18. I share when I have something worth sharing. I want to see my other writer buddies get published just [almost] as much as I want to be published myself. So I don't see anything wrong with sharing my latest find.
    My newest writerly advice is to get on twitter if you aren't already. (Which I know you are. ;) )

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  19. Echellebuyck, I'm the same! I want to see my writerly buddies published just as much as for myself. Twitter had scared me for years because of all the scary things I've heard, but it isn't so bad. I'm still figuring things out! ;)

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