Monday, March 12, 2012

Fake v. real women?

Media, media, media.

In all kinds of media, it says that women should look beautiful, skinny, fake. How badly brainwashed men, women and our children are into believing this trash! What are we doing to ourselves?

To drive the message home, read this and watch the video below (about 20 minutes long)--you'll be glad you did!


Let us speak up, show our daughters, mothers, wives, nieces--any and all women--just how important they really are. You know, the men in our lives deserve to hear the truth too. I don't want my son believing that the only perfect woman is the one he sees in commercials.


16 comments:

  1. Shared on my Facebook, the world would have us believe so little of ourselves.

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    1. Thank you so much! I agree with you... :(

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  2. I kept thinking about how profound your shared video was. I then went searching Youtube fo a video I watched last week realising it was the antidote Deep Beauty Real beauty comes from the inside out.

    RJRdaydreamer

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    1. Thank you, John, for sharing this with me! It's so sad how people base their worth on the outside. I'm going to check out Deep Beauty... xox

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    2. Aw, John, this is SO beautiful. It brings tears to my eyes. Thank you, thank you!

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  3. Very interesting. This is the kind of thing I've paid attention to my whole life, I just find the process and affect of culture in this way interesting and frightening.

    I've never understood the appeal of 'high fashion' or heavy makeup: fashion shows to display clothes that no one ever wears and make up that dehumanizes faces until the women are mannequins. As a kid, I know that my sister, and most girls our age collected pictures of models from such ads, putting them on their wall, covering their school books & in their lockers.

    Sadly, I think this attitude is heavily ingrained in our culture, and starts well before teenage years. Even fairy tales that are told to children have the same message: the woman will be rescued because she is beautiful. The woman is desired by the prince (or other hero) because she is beautiful. Cinderella had only one dance with the prince- he couldn't have said more than a few words to her (so it has nothing to do with who she is, only who she appears to be), but since she had the right clothes and looked fancy, to show off her beauty, then the result is he falls in 'love' and will 'save' her.

    These ads perpetuate this myth, it rings 'true' to most because that is what they've picked up on from even earlier in life. And it's made worse by the fact that you would need the storybook magic to achieve this definition of beauty.

    One interesting theory I have heard is that the expectation of beauty developing into ever more thin & frail women is in response to women becoming more and more equal in society since the 1960's... the more women entered careers that had been male dominated, the more women got higher education degrees, made more money, etc, the more the physical attributes of desirability became for women to be ever thinner, to be physically weaker, to 'rebalance' the standards of inequity to earlier times. Looking at models and actresses from the 1960's and through each decade that can be seen. Skimpy clothes and high heeled shoes are an aspect of this too: you can't move or walk or run well in such ridiculous clothes: it is a way to keep the men with fragile egos feeling a sense of superiority. Hard to 'prove' such social theories, but seems to make sense with the evidence. Sorry for the length of the reply, but I find this topic interesting and important.

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    1. Thank you for your thoughts. You don't need to apologize for the length of your post, I love seeing looooong replies. My blog loves it, too! I agree with you.

      This sounds funny, but I loved being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. I love staying home with my kids. My soul couldn't handle a 9-5 career, leaving my small ones at home--it had made me so depressed, I had a nervous breakdown in front of my supervisors...

      I am grateful that my husband supports my decision of being at the crossroads of my children's lives. Being at a place where they need me the most.

      Society is failing our children, and it began when women fought for equal rights because now, they are fighting for smaller and smaller families. Mothers are being ridiculed and so are big families.

      What's wrong with a family of 3, 4, 5 or more kids? I mean, really? What's wrong with our country for them to say it's hampering on the woman's life to have children? Are we really driving our own humanity to extinction?

      There is a whole lot more I feel strongly regarding this topic and the smaller ones that branch out from this. This is how I feel.

      Thanks for the thoughts, too!

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  4. Anytime I see of picture of a beautiful woman, I think "She's been airbrushed nice." Speaks more to the talent of the artist than the beauty of the woman.

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  5. I really get upset when beautiful women of colour think that lighter skin, bigger eyes, ie. the "westernised" concept of beauty is the one to aim for. :-(

    Take care
    x

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    1. Interesting that you bring that up. I didn't know it was a western concept. So sad how we are destroying ourselves! :(

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  6. i as a man, feel ashamed... i was in the business for over 10 years doing this, not to the extreme as the ads/commercial. i was always told to make the pretty people prettier. people don't like how they look, so make me look better... i am ashamed again, we all just need to be. thank you for sharing this...

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    1. It must be hard for you, but you were just doing your job. What choice did you have? You couldn't very well have put in there ordinary people and pass off your project as done. It's a wild circle! You're welcom, Zombie. <3

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  7. Thanks for sharing this. I was mesmerized. It's all SO true. We need to be more accepting of women with curves--those scrawny models where you can see their ribs are just pathetic! I just want to feed them some lasagna or something...

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    1. It is sadly pathetic, the quiet whisperings of the media to our daughters and ourselves... Btw, I love lasagna! ;)

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  8. Great post Elizabeth. I read a book in college, 'Deadly Persuasion,' that totally changed my viewpoint. I realized that it would be so foolish of me to let someone trying to make money on my insecurities dictate how I viewed myself.

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